Dating is a crap shoot

In between coffee dates that are either nothing, to nice but no "click", to so horrible that you hope you can forget that time spent, and soon, there comes a connection. Like I said it is still a crap shoot, by this age we all have "been there, done that" and some more than once. Hopefully, we learn from it and try at least to not repeat the same actions again. Each new dating situation is unique because the other person is brand new to you. The introspection comes when you realize that you and you alone are the common denominator in each encounter. Kind of a sad reality.

I had been telling a man no, since we had a date a year ago. There is something to be said for your first impressions, gut instincts, call it what fits. I said no to him after one dinner where he spent the whole time on his phone texting. Put your dang phone on vibrate for the blessed hour you are supposed to be trying to impress someone new. I told him we would not be a good match. I look for character traits, heart touches, and plenty of chemistry when I am meeting someone who I may date and connect with.

Well, this man waited a few months and tried again, and again I was polite but not accepting, and this went on until two weeks ago. I let him back in, and accepted a dinner date almost to the date a yr ago that I said no. Plenty of promises, are worthless words without action behind them, nice compliments, and lots of laughter. I may have been mistaken, or people do change in a years time, due to circumstances of life. Maybe it is me that changed.

So, here I am dating someone a little bit. I have a very guarded heart, and a brick wall that I would be more than happy to tear down. I am waiting for the actions to show me I can. Time does tell everything every time.