I will never date a Salesman again

I tried to end all communication with TicketMan, by a nice text, since this is his preferred style of communication. Wishing him well and letting him know it was just not working out. Never ever ever tell a Hard core salesman NO. He won't listen. He is differently wired to see that as a further selling point and a challenge to ....seal the deal. No matter the empty promises, the half truths, whatever it takes him to get what he deems he wants.

It was a disaster, he sent text of not understanding, and I think maybe he really didn't, seeing as he was happy and that is his focus. I truly believe he is selfish. I tried to meet and explain my thoughts and feelings. Then being nice, I allowed him to see if he could just once ask me out on a real date. One that did not include ticket sales or Vacuum sales pitches or the new supplement MLM that he is involved with. He said yes, I will take you out for a date that does not include ticket sales, soon. Soon being the operative word, in a long diatribe of words a salesman uses to his advantage. I am not holding my breath as I know he can't do it. He won't see any value to him by being giving for no reason.

During our conversation about why I can no longer date you, I discovered that his own Mother hangs up on him, because he calls her and sales pitches her, His grown children want nothing to do with him, he can't even see his grandchildren, Grown kids. he says. are still mad at him for a failed marriage with their mother. No one except the persons involved know the whole story of why marriages survive, thrive or fail. But when your mother hangs up on you , or covers her ears when you are talking and you cant see kids or grands, there might be an issue. Did I mention, he told me he lives with his Daughter, gkids and his Xwife. Now, this is a giant red flag, that I want nothing to do with. Thank goodness this appeared very early in dating him. I can be relieved to not be involved in any of this messy situation. He might be looking for a woman that will let him crash with benefits for how long it lasts. Hummm........not here, Bub.

I know that family's have their things, mine has had them too. So, I am screening his text messages, and now I believe I have to not respond since saying,........No, have a nice life didn't work. There is a new phrase going around............Ghosting..........the act of leaving someone by way of disappearing, never communicating again, ignoring without explanation, etc. Unfortunately I am adopting this for this situation. It won'd be easy for me, I do have a kind heart and try to be fair and give grace always

Sad to do it, I will be stronger for it. I need to love, first God, then myself. I need to grow and learn  so that I am better equipped for any other relationship I may be looking for.